Wellbeing Tips and Resources
Please visit https://portal.fromecollege.org/studentwellbeing for wellbeing resources on Frog.
Things you should do daily for good mental health
Never say something is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – change to a more specific word
We rarely ever know whether something is actually 'good' or 'bad'; the words are mostly meaningless. It is amazing how liberating for the mind it is if we simply replace them with something that has some meaning. Try labelling something 'helpful' if it assists in whatever goals you have identified (personally, for others, or even in a society), and 'unhelpful' if it does not. This encourages you to think through why something may be 'helpful' or not, and, even though it is more mental work, the mind really enjoys it. Additionally, it better reflects what is going on in your mind
Remind yourself that change is inevitable
Permanence is probably our greatest illusion. Science tells us it is nonsense, and common sense does, too – yet we spend so much emotional and mental effort trying to pretend things do not or will not change, and get upset when we are forced to face the truth. However, the flip side of impermanence is dynamism, growth, exploration and development. Change is simply a fact - so on a daily basis try to identify where you are resisting or lamenting change, and why. Embracing change takes a lot less emotional and mental effort than trying to preserve an illusion.
Accept that you can’t have complete control over anything
Another great illusion is our control over outcomes: whether we wish it for our own ends, or to help others, individually we control almost nothing. A huge amount of causes brings about future outcomes - our actions are just a drop in the ocean. Try to recognise when you are growing frustrated because things are not turning out the way you wanted - then experience how liberating it is to accept that the outcome is largely out of your control.
Guard against tolerating other people’s unreasonable behaviour: We all forgive our friends’ outrageous behaviour, behaviour we may condemn in total strangers. Recognising when you are doing this is a useful exercise. It’s not that you should become intolerant of your friends: it is simply important to recognise how your mind works, and how standards of behaviour are actually incredibly flexible.
Accept all your emotions – even the bad ones
Having eliminated 'good' and 'bad', accept all of your emotions. Some of them will be unhelpful (anger rarely helps anything) and some will be helpful (compassion springs to mind). But, helpful or unhelpful, they are all yours. Accept them. Nurture the helpful so that they thrive. Remain aware of the unhelpful, and discourage them gently but firmly. Like an ill-tempered dog, they are there, and are fine as long as they are quiet and not roused.
Tips on how to practice self care are found here.
Our 6-week programme
We offer 6-week programmes that runs for an hour a session once a week on several topics including:
Anxiety and Coping Strategies
Coping skills help you tolerate, minimize, and deal with stressful situations in life. Managing your stress well can help you feel better physically and psychologically, and it can impact your ability to perform at your best. For example, if you are struggling to complete a piece of homework that you do not understand, you might use avoidance as a way of coping and go out with friends to avoid completing the work. This in turn, can lead you to fall behind and affect your academic progress. Our sessions will look to give you clear and easy to follow strategies to help cope with the anxiety and frustration you experience when you are challenged by difficult situations and to support you to make the right decisions around seeking help and sticking with things like challenging tasks.
We all feel angry at times – it's part of being human. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, which we might experience if we feel attacked, deceived, frustrated, invalidated or unfairly treated. It isn't necessarily a 'bad' emotion; in fact, it can sometimes be useful. Most people will experience episodes of anger which feel manageable and don't have a big impact on their lives. Learning healthy ways to recognise, express and deal with anger is important for our mental and physical health. Our sessions will help you develop these skills so that you are in control in those moments when you feel angry.
When we have healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. It makes us better able to deal with life's ups and downs. When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light. As well as sessions on improving general self-esteem we also offer sessions about Grief and Bereavement, Friendship and Social Communication and Behaviour Management but also recognise some wellbeing concerns will not fit under these titles so we will always look to help and support whatever you may be dealing with.
We can offer a weekly opportunity for positive mentoring where we can look at identifying and managing emotions, looking at your triggers or help engaging with school.
We have a School nurse drop-in clinic on Monday lunchtimes in Student Services, where you can talk to our School nurse for confidential advice and support on issues such as sexual health and contraception, alcohol, smoking, self-harm, stress or eating worries.
We have a Wellbeing Practitioner who comes in once a week from Young Somerset who has been trained in cognitive behavioural therapies (CBT) for mild to moderate mental health difficulties. Wellbeing Practitioners support you to learn new tools to put into practice, to make changes in the here and now to help you to help yourself with your wellbeing.
We do have a counsellor that comes into College once a week from the charity We Hear You that deal with issues to do with bereavement or the impact of illness. Over the next few months we have some general counselling available in College so please let us know if that support is needed.
Signalling support outside of the College
As well as the support we offer in College we can also help point you in the direction of out of College support and resources if you would prefer. We can signpost you to websites or agencies that may be useful to improving your mental health or refer you for professional help such as counsellors or CAMHS. We know that home can have an impact on College life, so we also refer and liaise with outside agencies who might work with your family like CAMHS, Social workers or family intervention workers who have specialist training to help families and individuals.
Getting help and support related to Coronavirus
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Further support information can be found here.
Need some advice?
We are here to help. You can speak to your Head of House, Deputy Head of House, Tutor, Teachers, the Inclusion Team or anyone from the Senior Leadership Team anytime you have comments, concerns, feedback or ideas.
Click here to read Somerset County Council's advice on getting help and support on matters relating to Coronavirus.
Want someone to understand or advice to help a friend? Free, safe and anonymous online counselling and support.
YoungMinds is the UK’s leading charity championing the wellbeing and mental health of young people.
Health Connections Mendip
Local directory for support in the community to improve your health and wellbeing.
Somerset Big Tent
Directory of emotional wellbeing and mental health providers for children and young people aged 8-18 within Somerset.
Childline is available to anyone under 18 years old. You can talk to Childline about anything: Bullying, running away, school friends, gangs, cyber bullying, puberty, peer pressure, crime, abuse, how you look, pregnancy, drugs, families, online safety and much much more.
Telephone: 0800 1111
Body and Soul
Body and Soul is a charity promoting the respect, dignity and wellbeing of children, teenagers, adults and families living with and affected by HIV. This service is available to children and young people of all ages.
Telephone: 020 7923 6880
Information for young people on types of crime, how it can affect you, the help they can give you and information on how a court case works. You don't have to report a crime to get their help and you can call them anytime after your experience, even if it happened years ago.
Telephone: 0845 30 30 900
Information about eating disorders, how to get help and how to help someone you know with an eating disorder. If you are 25 or under, call the Beat Youthline. The Youthline is open Monday to Thursday 1.30pm – 4.30pm. Youthline also offers a call back service. They aim to get back to you within 24 hours.
Contact Crimestoppers anonymously with information about crime. You don’t have to be scared about coming forward because they don’t record any personal details about you. They make sure your identify can not be found out.
*Remember!!! Crimestoppers is not an emergency service and if you see a crime taking place you should ring 999 to report it immediately.
Telephone: 0800 555 111
This is a Somerset-Wide Sexual Health Service. SWISH welcomes young people to all of their clinics. They offer non-judgmental confidential service to any young person including under-16s. This includes information and advice on contraception and repeat contraception, sexual health advice and screening and C-Card sign-up.
Telephone: 0300 1245010
Get Connected is a free confidential helpline service for young people under 25 who need help but don’t know where to turn.
Telephone: 0808 808 4994
Send your text to: 80849
SelfharmUK is a project dedicated to supporting young people impacted by self-harm, providing a safe space to talk, ask any questions and be honest about what's going on in your life.